Chances are if you have a child that is overweight or obese, you also have a set of grandparents or two that offer up advice constantly. Though the advice may be well intentioned, it can most certainly be troublesome as well. Usually, the philosophy of grandparents is one of two extremes and then sometimes a combination of both.
Maybe they don’t understand today’s philosophy about self esteem and not using terms like “fat” or “fat camp” that have become almost taboo. To them, it might not be an insult. They probably just want what’s best, but they don’t understand that by guilting your child about his or her weight problem, they are doing more harm than good. After all, we know that it’s best to talk to our kids about weight in terms of health, not appearance.
The flip side is the grandparent who tolerates almost anything. Grandma or Grandpa may be of the opinion that you shouldn’t worry so much about your child’s weight. We know a lot about obesity these days and the health ramifications. We know that this is serious, but your parents may think or say things like “Well, he’s a growing boy” or “It’s just baby fat.” Grandparents also have a tendency to spoil. They may overindulge your child out of sheer love and affection. Grandpa may love to take the kids out for ice cream. Grandma might love to bake and send home the goodies.
So, what do you do? How can you tactfully help your mom or dad help their grandchild? Educate them. Rather than making it a personal situation where you are telling them to do this or not to do that, let them figure it out. The above problems are one of ignorance, not stupidity. They want what’s best for your child too. Taking them to a class or to a parent day at your child’s summer weight loss camp may be all it takes to get them on the right track! Ask the counselors at the camp or your dietitian/physician for advice in this matter.




